Case Study: How Lisa Went From ‘Blending In’ to Being Seen As a Leader
When people ask me about ‘how’ I do what I do, or how one could teach leadership and communication skills, I never tell them.
Not because it’s a secret, or I have devised methods in an underground laboratory that can’t see the light of day. No — it’s because if I told you about the ‘how’ without understanding what YOU want, or what your goals are — anything I say is meaningless.
But this is why today I wanted to pull back the curtain and show you how one client who I worked with, Lisa, went from ‘blending in’ to being seen as a leader. Lisa’s an extremely smart, ambitious women, an environmental engineer who had the following challenge:
“I’m really not comfortable drawing attention to myself. I make up excuses not to approach people, like I’m not cool/pretty/interesting/special enough. I feel like people will not respect me or listen to me because I’m younger/a girl/don’t have enough experience/knowledge/education. I feel uncertain how to speak my mind and me honest without hurting people’s feelings so most of the time I don’t. I often give in to what other people want. I feel uncertain how to talk about myself or my experiences and stuff without bragging. I feel like I’m not “a seller”.”
So when Lisa came to me, we really dug deep on how she could be a better conversationalist, storyteller, and approach anyone with grace and ease. As a budding entrepreneur, she even was able to approach her first client and sell naturally–without it feeling sleazy. Lisa and I also drilled down on trusting herself, and respecting and believing what she had to say which completely changed how people responded to her. Here are some other results she got from our work together:
“The way you write and present the material, every week I feel like “I’m going on an adventure”!
My communication skills have improved tremendously, I think it is because by doing the exercises I look at it more like a game, or like play. I’m learning and I’m having fun. Like you said; Kick back, relax, have fun; it really helped to not take all this stuff so serious (although sometimes I still do I look at mistakes in a different way now, I look at it as a way of learning. And by definition a mistake is only something that didn’t turn out the way I thought it would. Thinking about it this way, I realize I make mistakes all the time and it isn’t killing me. If I don’t place judgement on it, like it is bad, or like I’ve done something wrong, it is only a great opportunity of learning.
I’ve found that the best answers and ideas don’t show up when I try to force myself, but I DO have to challenge myself and you challenge me to dig deep. It is sometimes EXHAUSTING and scary. It IS hard work, but all the time interesting, rewarding, and FUN.
The best thing I take away from working with you is the deep realization that it all have to start with me. People will have a hard time seeing my value if I don’t value myself, to find me interesting if I’m not interested in myself, to believe in me if I don’t believe in myself. I thought I could skip this part, but now I see it is almost impossible, and if I rely on external validation, it is also very vulnerable. I feel stronger now.”
KEY TAKEAWAY: It’s normal, and FUN to work on these skills. CEOS, VPs, and the best leaders in the world do it. Why not you?
So if you’re curious about the ‘HOW’ — how Lisa went from ‘blending in’ and giving into other people to being seen as a leader, I created this free guide for you: The 3 Secrets to Instant Influence: How to Magnetically Pull People to You – And Respect You — Without Saying a Word. Just enter your email address below, and it’s yours — free.