The 3 Things You Need to Know About Making Friends Quickly and Easily
What is it about making friends when you’re in your 20s…30s…40s and beyond that gets so difficult?
A part of it is that some of us have established social circles. Another is that we’re working all the time. A more another is that you’re at a different life stage than other people, especially if you have more responsibilities, travel a lot, or even have a family.
But let’s remember something.
One of the best things we can do for ourselves is to HAVE friends. It’s to grow a garden of them right outside your window and keep in touch with them, and talk to them, and learn from them. Humans are social creatures who are desperate for connection.
So the saddest thing I hear is: “I don’t have time to hang out with friends”. Let alone make them!
I’ll be honest with you. I used to think that hanging out with friends ‘too much’ would impede my success somehow. And yet, I couldn’t have found that to be any more false than the fact that I’m going to spontaneously combust tomorrow.
Because when I hang out with friends, magic happens.
I’m more creative. I’m more fun. I’m invigorated, I’m playful. And all that fun and that HAPPINESS makes me a better for my clients, my family, my partner and most importantly…for myself.
How relieved do you feel after talking to one of your friends? Like you just drank fresh cucumber water? Probably. More cucumber water, please. (And cowbell).
Which brings us to today.
If We Know We Need Friends…And We WANT Friends…How Do We Not Sound Desperate and Awkward When We Make Them?
Or, how do you know when to follow up with someone after meeting them for the first time so they’ll want to see you again?
Welcome, ladies and gentlemen, to Friend Dating. Which is a bit of a different game than romantic dating. And if you want more friends, and want to see more of the people you meet, now’s the time to bring your attention to what I’m about to tell you.
The first thing is that YES…you CAN make friends quickly and easily. And it can be fun. And more people want to be your friend than you think.
And second is that I made a video for you answering this exact burning question that one of my subscribers asked me. She wanted to know what’s the best way to follow up with someone…when to do it…and what to say so it sounds natural (and not desperate or weird).
Lucky for you, I’m great at this. And in this video, How to Make Friends Quickly and Easily, I show you 3 situations that you’re likely to be in and exactly how to follow up, when, and a nice little script you can use if you’re not sure what to say.
In less than 9 minutes I’ll show you:
- How making friends and building trust is exactly like music–and how YOU can get the ‘rhythm’ just right
- Why you should NOT try to make plans right away (that’s when you start coming off as too eager) and what to do instead
- How to ‘plant seeds’ in people’s mind that will take root and make THEM reach out to YOU to see you again (3:42)
And actionable steps you can take TODAY—especially if you’re meeting new people this week, or you just met a few and didn’t know what to do!
I truly believe that when we have people around us who love and care about us–despite our flaws–what better way do you know of to live? To know that you don’t have to be ‘perfect’, or ‘fix yourself’, or always get people’s approval?
You just call up your close friend. You tell them what’s going on. And they listen, without judgment. And what I tell you in the video today is exactly what I’ve done to make some of the best friends I have today–people who I confess my most intimate secrets to, and friends who just love the shit out of me. Let’s be honest, you know? It feels good.
All you have to do now is take a nice 9 minute break, and watch the video here. And leave a comment or reply back to me what you end up doing, and what happens.